There is nothing more powerful in a man’s arsenal of weapons than his tongue. With a few quick words one has the ability to build up their brethren or tear them to shreds. Yet, I’m amazed at how little thought is often placed into what one says. How often do we speak about others without considering the weight of our words or who could possibly be overhearing our conversation?
I’m incredibly guilty of this. There have even been times when I’ll say something terrible right in the face of a brother or sister. This is unacceptable; whether they’re there in person or being talked about behind their backs. Let’s face it though. We can’t go through life never expecting to be hurt by words. There will be times when others in our lives with have to be lovingly harsh with us in order to grab our attention. I have brothers in my life who are forced to do this often in order to break through my stubborn and selfish skull. But they do it WITH LOVE and have thought out their words CAREFULLY.
If our hearts were being shipped; they’d have the “handle with care” sticker placed on the box. You can put up whatever tough front you’d like, but everyone’s heart is soft at some point and everyone bleeds…
Take a look at what James 3:3-8 has to say:
When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. 4Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. 5 Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. 6The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.
7 All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures are being tamed and have been tamed by mankind, 8 but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.
The Word of God speaks on how this one small part of our body can corrupt us to the core. If you have the ability to speak, write, or communicate in any other manner, please take into consideration the way in which you do so. Your words honestly have more power than you could ever imagine. Think about it…every time you speak. You have the option to either build someone up or tear them down with your speech.
Option A (Tearing Down): “Bro, you are awful at talking to others. So awkward. Just don’t attempt talking to girls ever again.”
Option B (Building Up): “Hey man, I really admire the way you reached out to those girls who needed help earlier and were so respectful of them.”
The above options may be corny, but you get the point. One will destroy your so-called friend’s esteem and the other will encourage and lift them up. In closing, I encourage each of you to be careful with your words and to loving lift one another up daily. Encouragement makes a much larger difference than we’d ever guess.